plug drugs' underlying depression thread

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Originally Posted by blumpkin blownuts

maks... people changing does does necessitate that they grow apart.

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If I shoot heroin it does not necessitate that I become an addict, but it sure as hell does seem to happen a lot doesn't it

yes, most marriages fail. it's closer to 2/3 than 1/2.
the reason so many fail is because too many people are getting married that should know better. of the marriages that end in divorce, either they are precipitated by insolvency or unfaithfulness or they were doomed before they even began. out of the marriages that last for life, both people change but still stay together. some work their problems out, the rest are obviously bad marriages that do nobody any good - codependencies so strong that not even divorce can cure them.

im not trying to convince plugdrugs to rush out and get married
i'm trying to help him see that he wouldn't have a chance in hell of making any marriage or even a LTR work in the state he's in - particularly if he were to shoot for someone like lisa, as an example

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Originally Posted by maks

If I shoot heroin it does not necessitate that I become an addict, but it sure as hell does seem to happen a lot doesn't it

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that doesn't mean addicts don't always recover. many don't, but some work the situation out with healthy, happy results.

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Originally Posted by blumpkin blownuts

yes, most marriages fail. it's closer to 2/3 than 1/2.
the reason so many fail is because too many people are getting married that should know better. of the marriages that end in divorce, either they are precipitated by insolvency or unfaithfulness or they were doomed before they even began. out of the marriages that last for life, both people change but still stay together. some work their problems out, the rest are obviously bad marriages that do nobody any good - codependencies so strong that not even divorce can cure them.

im not trying to convince plugdrugs to rush out and get married
i'm trying to help him see that he wouldn't have a chance in hell of making any marriage or even a LTR work in the state he's in - particularly if he were to shoot for someone like lisa, as an example

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Why should he be looking for or expecting a relationship? If he wants someone to hang with he should look for someone to hang with, and let it take its course and see where it goes. It's not difficult to find a girl if you're not looking for something that doesn't exist like some utopian idealized 'perfect match' so even in his current state he shouldn't have much trouble, shit with some girls being a junkie can actually work in his favor.

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Originally Posted by blumpkin blownuts

that doesn't mean addicts don't always recover. many don't, but some work the situation out with healthy, happy results.

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know what's happier is not getting in that situation to begin with

both of you are idiots and Plug Drugs does not need your help as he is far more capable in love than either of you two fucking idiots are.

He's smart, he's a gentleman, he's genuine, he's honest and aside from being a junky (no-one's perfect) and in his 20's (young) I would be so lucky to be able catch him.

Meanwhile you two.... well really either of you trying to give anyone romantic advice is a giant joke.