deflecting hurtful comments is one way to cope ramen, the other way is just to walk away from your abusers and never look back, you are a strong proud hispanic women who is happily married with a super career making people better then you coffee,you grew up with out a father, seeking out males approval constantly is not going to bring daddy back, he is never coming back with that gallon of milk ramen. it's time to move past it. why would you let a so called "comdey" forum destroy your self worth, run ramen run.