plug drugs' underlying depression thread

[maks]

see plug drugs? keep living in the past and trying to fulfill unrealistic expectations and you end up all bitter and deranged like clump here, that's a fate I wouldn't wish on anyone.

[maks]

thank you clump for proving my point

[LISAAAAAAAAAAH!]

maks has never had a relationship in his life and never will

the reasons are self evident and not philisophical

[blumpkin blownuts]

this is my moment of being 100% real on rubynet for the month of: November

plugdrugs don't listen to any of these people.
you can't love and be loved until you learn to truly love yourself. once you quit your relationships with dope, self-pity and self-doubt you will be ready for a lifetime of happiness with someone who is compatible with you & loves herself

[blumpkin blownuts]

i'm still working on this myself but i've seen it happen to so many people

[maks]

this is my moment of being 100% real on rubynet for the month of: November

plugdrugs don't listen to any of these people.
you can't love and be loved until you learn to truly love yourself. once you quit your relationships with dope, self-pity and self-doubt you will be ready for a lifetime of happiness with someone who is compatible with you & loves herself

guy who recently went from mr narcotic to mr na seemingly overnight pretending that people don't change itt

[blumpkin blownuts]

maks... people changing does does necessitate that they grow apart.

[LISAAAAAAAAAAH!]

Plug Drugs is MY friend

not yours

[maks]

i'm still working on this myself but i've seen it happen to so many people

half of all marriages fail and half of the ones that don't the partners don't leave, despite being miserable every single day, out of habit, fear of dying alone, or some bullshit about "I took an oath". gotta love those odds.

the whole purpose of a relationship is to make the participants happy. to decide, a few years in, "I am going to sign paperwork/make a verbal committment to stay with this person no matter what even though it's really likely that we will no longer make eachother happy 20 years from now" is just fucking stupid. if you find a girl who just happens to grow and develop in the same exact way as you and you make each other estatic until the day you die then fine, more power to you. stop looking for it and stop expecting it because it's the exception rather than the rule here in the non-fairytale world and you're basically suggesting that plug drugs set himself up to fail.

[LISAAAAAAAAAAH!]

I'll fight you ALL

[maks]

maks... people changing does does necessitate that they grow apart.

If I shoot heroin it does not necessitate that I become an addict, but it sure as hell does seem to happen a lot doesn't it

[blumpkin blownuts]

yes, most marriages fail. it's closer to 2/3 than 1/2.
the reason so many fail is because too many people are getting married that should know better. of the marriages that end in divorce, either they are precipitated by insolvency or unfaithfulness or they were doomed before they even began. out of the marriages that last for life, both people change but still stay together. some work their problems out, the rest are obviously bad marriages that do nobody any good - codependencies so strong that not even divorce can cure them.

im not trying to convince plugdrugs to rush out and get married
i'm trying to help him see that he wouldn't have a chance in hell of making any marriage or even a LTR work in the state he's in - particularly if he were to shoot for someone like lisa, as an example

[blumpkin blownuts]

If I shoot heroin it does not necessitate that I become an addict, but it sure as hell does seem to happen a lot doesn't it

that doesn't mean addicts don't always recover. many don't, but some work the situation out with healthy, happy results.

[maks]

yes, most marriages fail. it's closer to 2/3 than 1/2.
the reason so many fail is because too many people are getting married that should know better. of the marriages that end in divorce, either they are precipitated by insolvency or unfaithfulness or they were doomed before they even began. out of the marriages that last for life, both people change but still stay together. some work their problems out, the rest are obviously bad marriages that do nobody any good - codependencies so strong that not even divorce can cure them.

im not trying to convince plugdrugs to rush out and get married
i'm trying to help him see that he wouldn't have a chance in hell of making any marriage or even a LTR work in the state he's in - particularly if he were to shoot for someone like lisa, as an example

Why should he be looking for or expecting a relationship? If he wants someone to hang with he should look for someone to hang with, and let it take its course and see where it goes. It's not difficult to find a girl if you're not looking for something that doesn't exist like some utopian idealized 'perfect match' so even in his current state he shouldn't have much trouble, shit with some girls being a junkie can actually work in his favor.

that doesn't mean addicts don't always recover. many don't, but some work the situation out with healthy, happy results.

know what's happier is not getting in that situation to begin with

[LISAAAAAAAAAAH!]

both of you are idiots and Plug Drugs does not need your help as he is far more capable in love than either of you two fucking idiots are.

He's smart, he's a gentleman, he's genuine, he's honest and aside from being a junky (no-one's perfect) and in his 20's (young) I would be so lucky to be able catch him.

Meanwhile you two.... well really either of you trying to give anyone romantic advice is a giant joke.