i got a solution for this whole plug drugs/lisa situation

[Lisa Claus]

what is also interesting is that a narcissist has the same traits as a 6 year old

amoral/conscienceless
authoritarian
care only about appearances
contemptuous
critical of others
cruel
disappointing gift-givers
don't recognize own feelings
envious and competitive
feel entitled
flirtatious or seductive
grandiose
hard to have a good time with
hate to live alone
hyper-sensitive to criticism
impulsive
lack sense of humor
naive
passive
pessimistic
religious
secretive
self-contradictory
stingy
strange work habits
unusual eating habits
weird sense of time

This article covers:

Common Behaviour of a Narcissist
Common Expressions of a Narcissist
Gaslighting Techniques used by the Narcissist
Narcissists refuse to remain ‘Topical’
The Narcissistic Partner’s Addiction
Healing from a narcissistic relationship - What you can do


Common Behaviours of a Narcissist

‘Me versus You’ mentality;
Competitiveness;
‘Tit for tat’ retaliations;
Striving for the ‘spotlight’ and attention;
Excessive generosity to outside people;
Uncomfortable when others are incurring attention or praise;
If can’t be centre of attention will either discredit or leave the experience;
May fake illnesses or problems to procure attention / sympathy;
Abusive verbal behaviour when angered or insecure;
Tendency toward violent and even criminal behaviour;
Inappropriate and inapplicable language in front of women and children;
Dark moods that affect others;
False promises;
Glorifies and falsifies achievements past and present;
Expects to be recognised and praised;
Finds others not complying with wants intolerable;
Extreme sensitivity to criticism;
Extreme defensiveness when confronted;
Pathological lying;
Disdain for rules, regulations, decency and morality;
Childish outbursts and behaviour;
Very little consideration for how behaviour affects others;
Extreme lack of compassion or sensitivity towards love partners (and others') problems;
Grossly unsupportive to familiars in times of need;
Brushes incidences under the carpet;
Uses allies real or imagined to back up claims and arguments;
Uses guilt and manipulation to influence love partners;
Doesn’t trust love partners;
Tendency towards unreasonable jealousy and possessiveness;
Capable of sexually degrading name calling;
Can steal, harm or hide property to sabotage love partners;
Uses vengeance, threats and intimidation to control ;
Uses excessive charm and manipulation to control;
Little (if any) sense of conscience;
Discredits love partners to gain attention / sympathy from others;
Will ‘attack’ when confronted or questioned;
Emotionally punishes love partners when feeling insecure;
Emotionally punishes love partners when they are struggling with issues, losses, grief or challenges;
Employs unpredictable and unaccountable behaviour;
Capable of ‘disgusting’ behaviour to gain the upper hand and control a situation;
Feels powerful and fulfilled when creating powerlessness in another;
Gross failure to apologise or have sympathy after creating tears, distress or trauma to the love partner.


Common Expressions of a Narcissist

“I had them eating out of my hands.”
(Believes in manipulating others to create results).

“You didn’t let me finish what I was saying.”
(After verbally maiming and then pretending there was more to say)

“Just because I didn’t do what you wanted when you wanted it.”
(A justification for receptively breaking promises)

“Just because I didn’t say what you wanted to hear.”
(A justification for verbal abuse)

“You’re the only person who misunderstands what I say. You’re totally over-emotional.”
(Same as above)

“I’m sorry, what more do you want from me.”
(Followed by justifications for the behaviour with body language that is clearly not aligned with an apology)

“How many times do I have to say I’m sorry.”
(Followed by repetitive unacceptable behaviour)

“Why can’t you just get over the past?”
(Followed by repetitive unacceptable behaviour)

“What about your issues?”
(When failing to take responsibility for unacceptable behaviour)

“You make me behave like this.”
(Same applies for above)

“You’re the only person in the world I have these problems with.”
(Same applies for above)

“You act like my mother,” or, “You’re a control freak.”
(When asked for the truth or trustworthy / accountable behaviour)


Gaslighting Techniques used by the Narcissist

Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse that is used by narcissists that is deeply insidious and difficult to pinpoint. It works by instilling confusion. If you are being gaslighted you'll lose trust in your senses, identity and common environment.

The narcissist will tell you:

What you are feeling and thinking;
An interaction that you believed was decent with another person actually had agendas connected to it;
Your body language appears suggestive to other people;
A friend or family member has made certain references about you;
You were seen in a certain place acting inappropriately;
You said or did something (you weren’t aware of) when tired, distracted, unaware, intoxicated or asleep;
Certain information was discovered about you;
Certain people (you thought were loyal) are now agreeing about your faults;
The incident (created by the narcissist) was your fault, or merely a perception based on your paranoia or unstable emotions;
An excuse for the incidence based on a ‘story’ that extracts guilt from you, whereby you feel awful for making the ‘judgement’ you did;
Other people perceive you as bossy, controlling, manipulative, uncaring, incapable etc. (defective in some way).

[blumpkin blownuts]

amoral/conscienceless (nope, my conscience is a point of pride)
authoritarian (i have no need to force my views; it's your all's responsibility to seek them)
care only about appearances (pretty much)
contemptuous (is there anything undeserving of at least a little contempt?)
critical of others (only for their own good, not to make myself feel better than them)
cruel (no)
disappointing gift-givers (yes)
don't recognize own feelings (yes, not until it's too late)
envious and competitive (yes)
feel entitled (i am entitled)
flirtatious or seductive (yes)
grandiose (duh)
hard to have a good time with (yes)
hate to live alone (yes)
hyper-sensitive to criticism (no, i seek it out)
impulsive (yes)
lack sense of humor (my sense of humor is just on a special level than everyone elses)
naive (i wish)
passive (aggressively so)
pessimistic (yes)
religious (more spiritual really)
secretive (extremely)
self-contradictory (extremely)
stingy (no)
strange work habits (no comment)
unusual eating habits (yes)
weird sense of time ('weird' is the tip of the iceberg)

[Lisa Claus]

amoral/conscienceless (nope, my conscience is a point of pride)
authoritarian (i have no need to force my views; it's your all's responsibility to seek them)
care only about appearances (pretty much)
contemptuous (is there anything undeserving of at least a little contempt?)
critical of others (only for their own good, not to make myself feel better than them)
cruel (no)
disappointing gift-givers (yes)
don't recognize own feelings (yes, not until it's too late)
envious and competitive (yes)
feel entitled (i am entitled)
flirtatious or seductive (yes)
grandiose (duh)
hard to have a good time with (yes)
hate to live alone (yes)
hyper-sensitive to criticism (no, i seek it out)
impulsive (yes)
lack sense of humor (my sense of humor is just on a special level than everyone elses)
naive (i wish)
passive (aggressively so)
pessimistic (yes)
religious (more spiritual really)
secretive (extremely)
self-contradictory (extremely)
stingy (no)
strange work habits (no comment)
unusual eating habits (yes)
weird sense of time ('weird' is the tip of the iceberg)

I was half raised by a narcissist, I really don't think you are one

We should all have a "healthy amount" of narcissism but a real narcissist, well they are well beyond a healthy amount and are quite toxic