Bob as much as it hurts your head don't go trying to categorize this or force it. I didn't ask my girl if the friend she went to dinner with was a guy because I shouldn't care and neither should you. You are in a slightly different boat because you seem to want a girlfriend, my gripe is I care about this chick and I fucking hate doing that, so maybe it's a little easier for me to take my time but at least try it'll work out better if you keep it as casual as possible.