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People with the INTJ personality type tend to have more success in developing friendships than they do with romantic relationships, but they none-the-less suffer from many of the same setbacks, substituting rational processes for emotional availability. This intellectual distance tends to go both ways, making INTJs notoriously difficult to read and get to know, and making INTJs not want to bother reading anyone they think isn't on their level. Overcoming these hurdles is often all but impossible without the sort of instant connection made possible by sharing the Intuitive (N) trait.
No Person Will Complain for Want of Time Who Never Loses Any

INTJs tend to have set opinions about what works, what doesn't, what they're looking for, and what they're not. These discriminating tastes can come across as arrogant, but INTJs would simply argue that it's a basic filtering mechanism that allows them to direct their attentions where they will do the most good. The fact is that in friendship, INTJs are looking for more of an intellectual soul mate than anything else, and those that aren't prepared for that kind of relationship are simply boring. INTJs need to share ideas - a self-feeding circle of gossip about mutual friends is no kind of social life for them.
INTJs will keep up with just a few good friends, eschewing larger circles of acquaintances in favor of depth and quality.

Further, having more than just a few friends would compromise INTJs' sense of independence and self-sufficiency - they gladly give up social validation to ensure this freedom. INTJs embrace this idea even with those who do fit into their social construct, requiring little attention or maintenance to remain on good terms, and encouraging that same independence in their friends.

INTJ friendsWhen it comes to emotional support, INTJs are far from being a bastion of comfort. They actively suppress their own emotions with shields of rationality and logic, and expect their friends to do the same. When emotionally charged situations do come about, INTJs may literally have no clue how to handle them appropriately, a glaring contrast from their usual capacity for decisive self-direction and composure.
But Friendship Is Precious

When they are in their comfort zone though, among people they know and respect, INTJs have no trouble relaxing and enjoying themselves. Their sarcasm and dark humor are not for the faint of heart, nor for those who struggle to read between the lines, but they make for fantastic story-telling among those who can keep up. This more or less limits their pool of friends to fellow Analysts (NT) and Diplomat (NF) types, as Observant (S) types' preference for more straightforward communication often simply leaves both parties frustrated.

It's not easy to become good friends with INTJs. Rather than traditional rules of social conduct or shared routine, INTJs have exacting expectations for intellectual prowess, uncompromising honesty and a mutual desire to grow and learn as sovereign individuals. INTJs are gifted, bright and development-oriented, and expect and encourage their friends to share this attitude. Anyone falling short of this will be labeled a bore - anyone meeting these expectations will appreciate them of their own accord, forming a powerful and stimulating friendship that will stand the test of time.
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Artemis
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Jan 08, 2015 18:34:59
not that rare. I see too many females INTJ, maybe it is more than 0.8% I'm one too
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Erin
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Dec 29, 2014 20:25:04
I think it unfair INTJ are labeled arrogant. I have found people don't like to be presented with facts and evidence. They'd prefer to argue opinions. When you dismiss opinions as failing to have evidence, you are deemed arrogant or insensitive. I am INTJ and have two INTJ friends are they are far from arrogant. I appreciate they do not spew nonsense based on their feelings stating them as facts. I have found other types, especially those who are feeling types to be arrogant, yet it does not make the list for them. Bothers me that the INTJ is always deemed to be arrogant and insensitive.
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Anonymous
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Jan 07, 2015 03:53:01
I am in complete agreement! Everyone is different. Although I'm an INTJ. There are things I don't agree with.
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anonymous
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Dec 28, 2014 06:39:18
I find that the people best suited for being friends with me are ISFJs, INTPs, and of course, other INTJs.
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Ann
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Dec 14, 2014 07:21:31
"A self-feeding circle of gossip about mutual friends is no kind of social life for them." Well, it's good to know that someone out there knows the reason why I drop friends who start gossiping about each other faster than an epileptic juggler.

The part about not understanding emotions isn't quite accurate, though. It used to be, but I realized that that was a problem, and I fixed it. It's not so hard if you listen and look for clues on others' faces. Emotion IS like a rational problem; it just has more variables and more rules, some of which don't always makes sense.
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Philippa
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Dec 13, 2014 03:46:19
I agree with this mostly - though I am less against 'gossip' than this would say I am. I don't need it and hate doing it with anyone I'm not very close to (and I have a very limited n.o of celebrities I could even THINK of discussing). But, I can see a place for gossip for a good giggle and, arguably arrogantly, I also see value in having non-intellectual friends to help me 'turn off' my brain for a bit when it gets too tiring. Does anyone else know what I mean?

Also, am I the only one struggling to find a definitive difference between INTJ and INTP?
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Personality: INTJ

Variant: Turbulent

Role: Analyst
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Extraverted
Introverted
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Intuitive
Observant
20%
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Thinking
Feeling
8%
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Prospecting
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Assertive
Turbulent
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