the right thing to do is

1.don't get invloved in online relationships like that in the first place with people from fourms like this(you broke that rule 1000 times)

2.when it becomes real and your internet love get's on a plane, don't pick him up from the airport or awnser the door if he comes knocking, it would have saved you both alot of trouble

3.learn from your past mistakes(don't go to america to get invloved with your last dead onlines boyfriends family who are griviing over the loss of there child)